tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83575671828360602982024-03-14T01:46:06.689+00:00Pixie & PoppetAleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-66523657755005471432013-07-01T18:08:00.000+01:002013-07-01T18:08:03.899+01:00Wait, You're HOW Old?You know you're getting old when....<br />
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...you realise your first-born now does all his wees standing up. :o When did THAT happen?<br />
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He does, however, seem to have already learnt to wipe up after himself though. Phew! You can thank me later, future wife/husband!Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-39070508459779668982013-06-30T17:40:00.002+01:002013-06-30T17:40:21.896+01:00Poppy Lots Of TeethI discovered that Pops has a top molar to go with two bottom molars by her putting my finger in her mouth and clamping down. Ouch.<br />
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Speaking of teeth, here's this amazing picture of a child's skull before the adult teeth have grown through. No wonder teething hurts!<br />
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<br />Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-90473005380337971692013-06-29T14:15:00.000+01:002013-06-29T14:15:24.341+01:00A 4 Year Old's LogicI'm unsure whether it's born from greed or is pure logic which will stand him in good stead for a future career as philosopher extraordinaire (wait, what do you mean there aren't any philosophy jobs?!), but Pix has been showing amazing reasoning skills.<br />
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Following on from deciding to invite Santa to his birthday party (so he'll get presents, natch), he decided that he'd like to have his very own <i>robot </i>Santa, who could make him toys whenever he wanted. And also make me cups of tea without me having to get up. Genius child.<br />
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Given the choice between spending his £1 pocket money at the toy shop or the sweet shop he decided that he would buy a toy that makes sweets. This boy is going to go far. (He actually got a wind-up alien which is almost but not quite, as cool).<br />
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Watching Harry Potter yesterday he raised a very good point: how can Harry see through the invisibility cloak? The cloak isn't invisible... I've not thought of that and I've known about invisibility cloaks since 1998.Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-38192316131975348622013-05-22T21:58:00.000+01:002013-05-22T21:58:13.534+01:00How One Became Two<br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 13.600000381469727px;">As you may/may not remember my start with Pix was very similar to how I think yours was with YourBaby. It was a stressful, traumatic labour which I didn't physically recover from the aftermath of for over a month. More like 6 weeks. I was in a LOT of pain from various different things which admittedly weren't all as a result of giving birth. Emotionally I was a bit of a wreck too - I'd have flashbacks and panic attacks about the labour. </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 13.600000381469727px;">By the time I was physically healed a lot of emotional damage had been done because (and I do admit I'm not very good at being altruistic, not the best trait in a parent) it was 6 weeks of, frankly, wishing Pix wasn't around so I could feel better and not hurt. All the mess surrounding feeding him added to the - I wouldn't say bonding issues, but the feeling as though the love for him was something that had to grow rather than something that was innate and natural and there from the beginning, you know?</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 13.600000381469727px;">By the time Pix was about 9 months I started feeling calm about being a parent. Well, not calm, but calmer! I enjoyed it. I endured the first 9 months, I think. There were good bits, don't get me wrong, but I felt like I was coming out of a shell shocked daze. I put it down to him being mobile then, but who knows? He wasn't a high needs baby but he needed more than I realised (well duh, he was a baby). I definitely didn't want more babies. I genuinely didn't think I'd be able to get through the trauma of it all again, that it would definitely break me. I remember telling people that I wasn't one of 'those' parents who said never, ever again only to go on to having 3 more kids.</span><span class="emoticon emoticon_wink" style="background-color: white; background-image: url(https://fbstatic-a.akamaihd.net/rsrc.php/v2/y-/r/C4N9eCQc_fR.png); background-position: 0px -770px; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; background-size: auto; color: #333333; display: inline-block; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; height: 16px; line-height: 13.600000381469727px; vertical-align: top; width: 16px;" title=";)"></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 13.600000381469727px;">Inevitably - and I just checked, it was when Pix was 1 year, 8 months and 2 days old - the seed of doubt sprouted and I started to consider that there may be more babies in our future. I don't know what triggered it, really. Hormones, biological clock, seeing how awe-sam No1 had become? Who knows, But when that little voice started there wasn't really much I could do, you know? There were a hundred reasons why No2 was a Really Bad Idea but an 8lb idea was bigger than those. We talked about ways we could have a baby but not go through all that again, talked about adoption, talked about going straight to an elective section, not breaking my back the week before...</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 13.600000381469727px;">I spoke to my GP about a referral to the [hospital] birth trauma centre which was (at the time) about to open. I started preparing by coming off medication which needed to be out of my system for 6 months and very vaguely thought about how I wouldn't be in the same position during labour/post labour again. This is a massive TMI but I started getting panic attacks again when it came to the, um, conception bit of having another baby because I knew it wasn't recreational but procreational (OMG, I didn't even know that was a real word) but I went with the very mature response of absolutely, definitely not thinking about it at all thankyouverymuch. Then I put my head in the sand for 6 months until I got the BFP.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 13.600000381469727px;">I spent the next, ooh, 10 months shitting myself. Literally, sometimes. Oh God, that was a joke. I spent a very, very long time feeling sick from anxiety about what I'd got myself in to. Before the month was out I'd written a list called 'Things To Shit Myself About' to raise at my booking in appointment, who referred me to [Head of Midwifery] to have the debriefing session you had. There was a lot more sand/head interfacing; there was a LOT of wailing at people who had BTDT. Knowing that people had come out of similar situations and stayed relatively normal was a help. But, you know, mostly the head/sand.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 13.600000381469727px;">I know you've not asked for more and I'm sorry if I'm stepping over the line now, but having Pops healed me. I was prepared for the worst to happen but I took control of what I thought might go wrong - booking [my doula], having a home birth, refusing to go to [hospital] in an emergency, refusing anything but an epi, making sure the people who were going to be there knew what state I was likely to be in. Knowing I was likely to be unable to speak but that people who had been primed to intervene gave me the reassurance that I'd be able to let go and let myself do what I needed to do. I think you're probably there, in some ways. You know the birth that you want, you know how it'll happen and you have more support prepared to help you get it. If YourHusband is anything like MyHusband then he knew last time but was so busy crapping himself about it all that he didn't feel as though he could intervene as much as I felt necessary. Also because it was such a brand new experience that he didn't know for sure that I even wanted him to intervene. You know that what happens in labour is unpredictable and no matter how much you plan and prepare your body might do something different but that works both ways. What happened last time may not happen this time. And actually, both of my labours were very similar physiologically - both went back to back during labour, contractions never got established etc. Yet because of my environment they were handled in massively different ways! Also, from getting to know [Supervisor of Midwives] and the MSLC I truly believe that [hospital] has turned around in the care they give. They're very much about supporting women and there wasn't that vibe 4 years ago, and I'm positive if you ended up in hospital and [SoM] was there she'd get involved to help you.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; line-height: 13.600000381469727px;">As for your concerns post-labour, well, again, you can't predict what will happen. Pops was a dream baby. Was it a more AP approach I took that did it, or was that just her? I don't know, but the entire thing couldn't have been more different. You might have an easy baby, you might have a challenging baby but you WILL cope. You're strong, and capable, you have support, you know what to expect. I love having 2. They're fascinating together, they're funny, they're massively different in personality. I'm SO glad I didn't let my fear hold me back, and it so, so could have. The fear nearly broke me but Pops healed me </span><span class="emoticon emoticon_heart" style="background-color: white; background-image: url(https://fbstatic-a.akamaihd.net/rsrc.php/v2/y-/r/C4N9eCQc_fR.png); background-position: 0px -651px; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; background-size: auto; color: #333333; display: inline-block; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.800000190734863px; height: 16px; line-height: 13.600000381469727px; vertical-align: top; width: 16px;" title="<3"></span></blockquote>
Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-14260605741221535452013-05-17T21:50:00.000+01:002013-05-17T21:50:13.308+01:00Telling A Good TalePix has been really funny and clever today.<br />
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We had a car conversation about how "burglars are bad" so, curious, I asked him if everybody who steals is a baddie. He said no, but didn't know why some people might not be so we discussed how if someone can't feed their family and they stole food that wouldn't be a bad thing to do. Which led to...<br />
"If they stole all the food what would happen?"<br />
"We could buy different food"<br />
"If they stole all of our food what would happen?"<br />"We could afford to buy other food"<br />"If they stole all the bread in the shop what would we do?"<br />"Buy bread from a different shop"<br />"If they stole all the bread in all the shops what would we do?"<br />
"Make some more"<br />
"If they stole all the machines to make the bread what would we do?"<br />
"Eat something different."<br />
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"If they stole something from the police station what would happen?"<br />"They couldn't, because there's too many police officers there"<br />"But if they killed all the police officers?"<br />"Then there'd be more police officers from somewhere else"<br />"But if they killed all the police officers everywhere?"<br />"Then new ones would be made"<br />"But if they were on fire they'd have to be put out. Would the doctors help the baddies if they were on fire?"<br />
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"Mr Tickle was out one day and he met a nasty boy who was called Nasty Boy who killed a person. Then he killed another person and then all the people. Then he ate all the killed people and then he killed himself. And then he went home and decided to be a good boy."</div>
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Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-26341927625070650242013-05-10T17:37:00.000+01:002013-05-10T17:37:08.239+01:00Stream of Consciousness, Pre-School Style"Sometimes when I'm naughty I think you're not my best friend anymore. Are you my best friend even when I'm naughty? The thing is, I want to be your best friend even when I'm a grown up but I'll get married... I want to marry a girl. Poppet! But when she's grown up she won't be my sister she'll be my brother. Will her hair be the same as mine when she's grown up?"<br />
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*runs away blowing a party streamer*Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-70655192312661630262013-05-10T14:30:00.001+01:002013-05-10T14:30:40.077+01:00Ignore<a href="http://www.bloglovin.com/blog/4989029/?claim=vdqucqhbjqp">Follow my blog with Bloglovin</a>Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-42767153933108536032013-05-09T13:18:00.001+01:002013-05-09T13:18:06.895+01:00Accidents and advertising<br />
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"Mommy, if you have an accident and it wasn't your fault and someone else was to blame then you need to call someone about that don't you?"<br />
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I think Pix <i>might </i>just watch too many TV channels with commercials on. Back to Cbeebies.Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-44456701858285660742013-05-06T22:11:00.000+01:002013-05-06T22:11:00.859+01:00Let's go fly a pirate ship.After a <i>horrendous </i>start to the Bank Holiday weekend (horrendous to the point I had to call all of Ed's colleagues to get them to interrupt his client meeting so he could come home RIGHT NOW because I couldn't stop fainting from a stomach bug. Which he then came down with. Yeah.) things picked up and we made the most of the glorious weather. I know, May Bank Holiday, nice weather and the north west of the UK - I don't think that's ever happened before.<br />
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On Sunday we headed up to<a href="http://www.nationaltrust.org.uk/lyme-park/"> Lyme Park</a> to fly kites up at the Cage, cavort around the adventure playground and roll down hills.<br />
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Today we made good on Pix's belated birthday trip to <a href="http://www.gulliversfun.co.uk/warrington">Gulliver's World</a> which was heaving - better than our last visit when we tried to go when it was still closed for the season. Whoops. Taking the carrier on its second trip of the weekend was inspired really; it was SO much easier to have Pops tucked up on us rather than being pushed and barged by the crowds in the pram.<br />
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The park is looking a bit tired and was understaffed which is a shame as it's the perfect size for littlies. There's only 2 rides that Pix can't go on and there's a fair few that Pops is able to ride on too. Although as she seems to have grown 8 foot overnight that's not surprising. Two things they did really well were the number of toilets (hurrah, says the ridiculously tiny sized bladder person!) and the number of climbing frames where the kids can run riot. They both did really well with queueing and walking and I think it's because they got to run off steam at every second corner.<br />
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Apparently as Pix got off the Pirate Ship and his dad said thank you to the guy running it, he shouted "Shiver me timbers!" then ran off. He's a comedy genius sometimes.<br />
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Given the amount of sugar, e-numbers and BLUE ICE LOLLIES they had, I'm surprised they're asleep. Thank god they are, I'm bushed.<br />
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<br />Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-84164369093745121522013-05-04T10:16:00.003+01:002013-05-04T10:16:48.831+01:00*tap tap* Is this thing on?Oh dear. 6 months and no post. You can blame my forum and GOING BACK TO WORK for that. Eurgh.Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-67387453702899520142012-11-08T13:42:00.000+00:002012-11-08T13:42:26.914+00:00Allowed to wee yet?I've just come across<a href="http://laurasplog.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/one-step-ford-two-steps-back.html"> this post</a> on a new mother using Gina Ford's methods. Hilarious. You should check out Laura's entire blog, it's very funny.Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-42316311389623527492012-11-01T21:29:00.005+00:002012-11-01T21:29:43.092+00:00Does TV stunt children's brains?Confession time! My children watch TV - a <i>lot </i>of it.<br />
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I've cut them off cold turkey. No more Peppa (hurrah!), no more Mr Tumble, no Batman, no Dora the Explorer, no Spiderman, Super Hero Squad, Ben & Holly, Mister Maker, Thundercats, Jake and the Neverland Pirates, Team Umizoomi, In the Night Garden....whew! Yes, there's a lot. So TV is more of a staple in this house rather than a treat. It also doesn't work as an electronic babysitter because there's no novelty value to it.<br />
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Although there was some <i>mega </i>whining about not having the TV on during the first day (and, to be fair, some the second day too), Pix has risen to the challenge admirably. He's spent hours and hours playing clever little games, making little worlds and asking questions. Oh God, the questions! Here's just a taster of what we've covered today: what planets there are, gravity, maths (addition and subtraction), what aliens might eat (salt), why we think about people when we're not with them, why people might die if they don't eat their breakfast (he's going through a death phase at the moment), how to send an email to people, whether jumping counts as exercise, does Woody from Toy Story get old and die (hello death phase!), what are cars made out of, what are tellys made out of, why are there so many red lights on cars, where does rain water come from and why does the swing make his penis tickle. I'm sure he didn't ask this many before, so perhaps turning the TV off has stopped stunting his brain. I might put it back on tomorrow for a rest ;)<br />
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We've also noticed that there's been absolutely no shouting matches over the last two days. And there's been quite a few recently, so that's amazing. Where he <i>has </i>started to try it on, he's backed down pretty quickly and it's not escalated to being removed from a situation which has been pretty amazing really.<br />
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<br />Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-82428689482583164472012-10-21T22:03:00.000+01:002012-11-01T20:38:50.129+00:00Minty....fresh?It's perhaps indicative of my state of mind why I didn't put two and two together to make the answer to why Pops has had a bad tummy and skin complaints... It was, in fact, only when I stumbled across a post in a forum of mine that I discovered that peppermint tea can sometimes cause diarrhea and skin irritation in nursing babies. Peppermint tea is what I've started drinking by the bucketload for the past few weeks.<br />
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How on <i>earth </i>it didn't enter my head that there may be a connection when her brother has an allergic reaction to mint I don't know, but since I stopped the tea her problems have begin to, er, dry up. I'm sure it wasn't the cause as the timing's wrong but early indicators show that there's a link. Unfortunately, that leaves me without a hot drink of choice!<br />
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ETA: I've reintroduced a couple of peppermint teas into my diet and so far so ok. On second thoughts I don't think it was that after all, but I'm not taking chances!Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-14233282821872497482012-10-16T21:41:00.001+01:002012-10-16T21:41:38.474+01:00Dermatographic urticaria, or, why my child is weirdPoppet is in week four of a bout of diarrhoea (woo, spelled right the first time, get me!). Tests show she doesn't have a bug, so it's probably some sort of viral <i>thing</i>. It's not pleasant, but she's fine. What's interesting to note is that the last few days she's been really reactive to touch. If you pick her up, or hold her, or she knocks herself, or anything really she gets bright red marks. It rather looks as though she has <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Urticaria#Dermatographic_urticaria">dermatographic urticaria</a> - a small scratch to her arm flared up in a big welt. The font of knowledge wikipedia says it can occur post virally. Am I meant to notify the doctor of this?<br />
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Good grief, but can none of my children be normal in the health stakes?<br />
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<br />Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-45562966822619508202012-10-13T21:47:00.002+01:002012-10-13T21:47:36.438+01:00Play Assessment I'm on a roll tonight ;) Actually, I've just been reminded that Pixie has got a bit further down the line with his SALT (speech and language therapy) assessment. He had his play assessment (which is literally someone assessing him while playing!) and we now have a professional opinion of what we're facing.<br />
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He <i>does </i>have a stammer and he <i>does </i>have dysfluency and lack of coherence in his speech. The therapist is unsure whether the lack of coherence is down to the massive amount of tongue action he does (seriously, it's all over the place, hanging out like a dog, flapping around his mouth.... It reminds me that I remember thinking that my tongue used to feel like it was too big for my mouth a lot. I don't now, so it could actually be that he needs to grow into his tongue and all of that will be fine, but otoh it could be something else). She wants us to concentrate on dealing with the stammer first as that will give his head to grow around his tongue if that's what's needed.<br />
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In all honesty we've not been great at putting into practice all the strategies we've been taught. In fact, I'd go as far as saying we're reacting worse to the stammer than we ever have done. At least, <i>I</i> certainly am. I've found myself finishing his sentence or quickly getting my side of the conversation in before he has a chance to speak as I can't face listening to him trying to get his words out. Not good. At least writing it down here makes me accountable to making changes. That, and we've got another appointment series starting this week.Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-6688803070284087222012-10-13T21:28:00.001+01:002012-10-13T21:28:23.791+01:00Start of the RoadI'm meant to be editing some photos of our recent holiday but a slight technical issue (flat camera battery, whoops!) means I can't get them on to the computer so I thought as I'm here I'd update about the salicylic acid intolerance testing we're doing with Pixie. (I also want to stay online to stat check as I've just taken the decision to de-anonymise this blog with real life people and have put a link on my facebook page. Eek! So hi, those of you who are looking ;) )<br />
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We'd made the decision to cut out salicylic acid from Pixie's diet without discussing it with a medical professional first. Firstly, because we didn't think it would do any <i>harm</i>, and secondly because it can take two to three weeks to get a non-urgent appointment with my surgery and frankly I'm not that patient. We thought we saw some success and I think my last post on this subject saw a link between eating a 'moderate' food and a worsening of his symptoms. Since then we got to a stage where his symptoms were still there in varying degrees even when we were very strictly sticking to 'low' and 'negligible' level foods (for the list we've been working off, see <a href="http://salicylatesensitivity.com/about/food-guide/">here</a>) but if we gave him something he wasn't used to he'd have terrible urticaria (hives, to you and me) around his face and terribly itchy, dark eyes. Every time we thought about giving up the low salicylic acid diet (Christ, I'm not keep typing that out, LSA diet from now on I think!) because we couldn't see any reason why his symptoms were flaring, we'd accidentally let our guard down and have a horrendous reaction to tend to. This isn't the best picture as it was taken on my phone (and please excuse the dinner down his top, which I've just noticed!), but the redness is lots and lots of hives:<br />
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While this was going on, we were referred to a paediatrician regarding chicken pox vaccines, so we took the opportunity to discuss this with the doctor. Unfortunately he confirmed that there are no tests we can do for this particular allergy but we <i>can </i>test for individual foods. We're working on a list of things we're pretty sure cause a reaction in Pixie; we know that mangos, flavoured crisps, anything tinned and mint cause a problem. Because the list of potentials is so big I think we may have to do staggered testing as we want to get moving on it and we can't overload his poor body with things that may cause a reaction. His body needs time to get over the responses he has (or doesn't) but I don't want to wait indefinitely for testing.</div>
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To be honest I'm not sure where we go from here. Even if it's not the salicylic acid, there's definitely a pretty major list of allergies/intolerances he's got. I don't know how he can avoid even the ones we know cause a problem for the rest of his life - cleaning teeth is a problem, eating anything but home made food is a problem, having a varied diet is a problem.... Unfortunately, I think getting a solid answer is going to be a problem too :( Having said that, one thing that isn't a problem is Pixie's response to it all. He has been totally amazing at picking up that he <i>must </i>ask if he's allowed to eat any food offered to him by anyone other than me or his dad. He knows quite a few things that he's not allowed and will stop someone giving him it if necessary. He also saves me any of the sweeties he's given but can't eat - excellent!</div>
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PS - hello to the FIFTY EIGHT people who have just checked this blog in the last hour!</div>
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So yes, Pixie has started at his pre-school and boy does he love it. Every day we hear "is it a pre-school day today?" and he's been very excited about doing his 'homework' - he gets to pick a book from their own library whenever he wants. This is him on his first day:<br />
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It's a difficult task to get him out of his uniform at the end of the day! As good as I find his school so far, I wish it came with an instruction book. I think it's assumed that parents know what they're doing but I don't have a clue! As evidenced by my complete failure to pay his snack fee most weeks and reply to his first birthday party invite until it it was too late and the spaces had been filled. Whoops!</div>
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<br />Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-66821530897699779032012-09-10T08:26:00.001+01:002012-09-10T08:26:13.536+01:00Sleep Training: Stage FourI've just put Pops down for her nap, which is the commencement of stage four of our sleep training. Because....the cot is in Pixie's room! A day of naps in his room followed by them rooming in tonight. Yikes.<br />
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Stage three went really well. She now has her last milk during the story, we all say goodnight and as Daddy and Pixie leave the room she goes into her cot wide awake. There's sometimes a bit of grousing but it's rarely all out crying and not for more than a few minutes. That might change tonight when she knows someone else is in the room with her (especially as Pixie has a tendency to chant 'shh' at her if she cries), but, well, we'll sort it.<br />
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Best of all we get to go back into our ACTUAL bed. Amazeballs. Although I'll miss watching films in bed ;)<br />
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<br />Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-51833682097674251902012-09-06T11:32:00.002+01:002012-09-06T11:32:56.717+01:00Third Stage of Sleep TrainingLast night was night 7 of the sleep training regime. We've been taking a slowly, slowly, catchy monkey approach and made minor changes for 3 nights before introducing the next stage.<br />
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Night 1-3 - Introduced the '10 minute' rule of not going in to her, and even then only for a cuddle.<br />
Night 4-6 - Began putting her to bed awake after her last feed instead of waiting for her to feed to sleep<br />
Night 7-10 - Bring last feed forward slightly it's during story time, then putting her into the cot awake and all leave the room together (usually the boys leave and I stay to give a last feed in the dark and quiet)<br />
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I really expected this change to cause problems as she NEVER gets put to bed at night like that, it's always been just me and her for a final feed. But I turned the light off, gave her a cuddle, sang the going to bed song, and popped her in. There was maybe a minute of babbling, no crying at all, and that was that until SIX AM! Not a single peep from her.<br />
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I mean, 7am would be better, but... ;)<br />
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Hopefully the next two nights will go as well as last night, and then we'll move the cot into Pixie's room (again!). I'm undecided whether to go straight to leave them both in the room together as she falls asleep, or have 3 nights of him leaving the room for another story and <i>then </i>coming in while she's asleep.<br />
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I think because we're habit breaking, the very slowly routine changing is working really well for us. Sure, it takes longer, but it's not so much of a change in one go.<br />
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How's your sleep been?Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-29274846156649898432012-09-02T19:37:00.001+01:002012-09-02T19:37:40.970+01:00Sleep Training An 8 Month Old: ContinuedWe're on night 4 of sleep training and we're still camped out on the airbed!<br />
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Night 2 we had exactly the same plan. It was favourable when she didn't wake at the recently expected 10pm-ish, so that was nice. She didn't stir til 2am-ish when I <i>think </i>she'd have gone back to sleep except it turns out the not unsubstantial amount of noise an airbed makes when you roll over, could be heard in her (our!) room. I think our noise woke her up just a bit too much so I went to give her a cuddle and after a couple of minutes more crying she went back to sleep. There were a few more stirs but nothing of any consequence, although they increased in quantity from 6am til getting up time (6.50am, still a vast improvement on 5am!).<br />
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Night 3 brought a disagreement between me and the hubby. He thought there was no stirring until early morning, I beg to differ*! Regardless of who was right (me, obvs), nobody went up to her so it mustn't have been anything of any note. Slightly earlier wake up this morning of 6am, although when you've had nearly a full night's sleep that'll do, donkey.<br />
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Tonight (night 4!) I ended up putting her into her cot while she was still awake (normally we feed to sleep) and I expected a long, long screaming fit. BUT, 3 minutes later she was asleep. Hurrah! I suspect there might be an unsettled night ahead of us but she needs to be able to go into her cot awake so that she can share a bedroom with Pixie. We'll work on that - she goes in her cot awake for naps so there's no reason why she <i>can't</i>.<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">*In the interest of transparency it's only fair I point out that I just asked him if he had thought there hadn't been any awakenings and he said no, he wasn't sure which is why he'd asked me. So I was definitely right ;)</span>Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-81245607181331159102012-08-31T12:45:00.002+01:002012-08-31T12:45:32.645+01:00Sleep Training an 8 month OldI know sleep training isn't for everyone, and the way we do it might make some people raise their eyebrows but there we have it. When you spend a proportion of your night in tears because the baby's awake for the 6th time, or because you've spent half an hour sitting up with her until she falls dead asleep only for her eyes to spring open and the wailing start again the minute you try to transfer her to bed, well, something has to change. So now the month long hammering of cold-development splurge-teething we've had which has totally kicked our sleep patterns is over, we've decided to go for sleep training again.<br />
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We've previously tried a softly-softly approach to sleep training. Back when she was younger I had to get her to adjust to going to nap on her own without being fed to sleep and we also used the <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Increase-the-Length-of-Time-Your-Baby-Sleeps">core night method</a> with some success overnight (as we knew she could go longer than she was at the time without feeding in the night). Because of this, we knew that the more gentle approaches to sleep training such as<a href="http://www.sleepytot.com/category/blog/pick-put-down"> pick up-put down</a>, or the gentle withdrawal didn't work - our returning presence made things worse (we found this with Pixie too).<br />
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We know from past experience that Pops won't settle back to sleep in the same room as us; she knows we're there and she's damn well going to keep going til she gets that cuddle and feed. Which is why last night found me and my husband on an airbed in the front room. Glamping! At the 11th hour (literally! We'd just turned the lights off to go to sleep) we decided that as well as letting her learn to self-settle again we'd take the opportunity to night wean as well. We had 4 glorious nights of no waking from 7pm-6am either side of our camping trip a month ago and she eats 3 meals a day plus snacks (as well as nursing) so we're confident she's getting enough day time calories. Almost as soon as we decided that, she woke up. We let her cry for 10 minutes, then her daddy went up to give her a cuddle. She cried for another 10 minutes after he put her back to bed so I went in for a cuddle. And then, joy of joys, she went to sleep about 5 minutes later! I was totally expecting it to carry on for about 3 hours.<br />
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She woke a lot in the night. At least 6, although I was too bleary to count. But each time she cried for less than 10 minutes. I got up to feed her at 6.50am because frankly my boobs would have exploded if I hadn't! First morning she's not been up and at 'em at 5am, WOOP! (My husband is probably wooping louder tbh, as it's him that's got up at that ridiculous time. Hurrah for him!)<br />
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I reckon there's going to be a few more nights on the airbed ahead of us, but early indicators seem favourable. Click for continued success please, as our sanity depends on it!Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-18838758889704819442012-08-31T12:13:00.004+01:002012-08-31T12:24:32.337+01:00<a href="http://edwardwilliam.hubpages.com/hub/Salicylic-Acid-Intolerance">This is an interesting article about salicylic acid intolerance in children.</a>Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-19353721562912993052012-08-13T11:14:00.000+01:002012-08-13T11:14:18.604+01:00<a href="http://www.mommywithselectivememory.com/2012/08/new-research-is-yelling-at-kids-worse.html">This </a>is an interesting post about discipling your children, and one that hit a slight nerve today as I battle over a week's worth of camping/poorly baby/insomnia/child with nightmares/annoying dog sleeplessness.<br />
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I think most people recognise that smacking isn't a helpful child discipline tool, don't they? Yet shouting at children is seen as an ok thing to do, whether you're a parent or other caregiver. But would you shout at anyone else who was annoying you? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't get away with that with your partner, your boss or subordinates or your friends. So why do we do it with kids?Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-9381243246430301792012-07-19T21:22:00.003+01:002012-07-19T21:22:33.215+01:00NCT Newsletter<span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">I've written an article for the NCT newsletter, whose subject is 'communication' this time round. The NCT, by the way, have had the pleasure of me volunteering (no, I don't know what I was thinking either!) to assist the co-ordination of the nearly new sale and various other things. </span><br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">Anyway, I've just sent it across and it's here:</span><br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">Pixie was always a physically advanced baby and toddler, so in a sense I was expecting him to be a slower talker (I’d heard the adage ‘a baby’s a walker or a talker but not both’!), so when his peers picked up words slightly faster than him I wasn’t bothered and assumed he’d get there in his own time.</span><br />
<br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">Just before Christmas 2011 (when he was two and a half) his dad and I started to notice that Pixie was stuttering. At that point he was having a huge burst of vocabulary so we put it down to his mouth catching up with his brain and didn’t really think much more about it. It happened again, and again, and in about February we realised that what he was doing was above and beyond ‘normal’ childhood development and in the realms of having a speech problem.</span><br />
<br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">His stutter has presented perfectly typically. He’s 3 (most stutters present between 3-5 years), he’s male (approximately 3/5 stutterers are male), he has parents with slight speech issues (there appears to be a familial link between stutterers, although the exact cause is unknown) and he’s had a great deal of stressful change in a short period of time (new sibling and a change of childcare provider) – I’m not sure he could be more of a classic presentation! Unfortunately knowing that he’s ‘typical’ hasn’t assuaged the sadness I feel watching him struggle to get his words out.</span><br />
<br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">I’ve mentioned my concerns to other people who come into contact with Pixie. Their assurances that “he’s not that bad” do little to ease my worries. Either they’re wrong and it is that bad or I – the very person who’s meant to know him best – can’t understand him. I’ve been told that there are reasons for his stutter to present worse in front of parents but even that does little to alleviate the worry – parenthood is one long mass of guilt and worry, isn’t it? </span><br />
<br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">Although Pixie is only just vaguely becoming aware that he has a stutter (he’s very recently started to stop himself in the middle of sentences and drift off for a moment before starting afresh), he’s becoming increasingly aware and frustrated by people’s inability to understand him. Worse, he’s started to realise when people are pretending to understand and he’s been in tears several times because of it. Having to translate what he’s saying to people feels like I’m undermining him and removing his voice, yet if I don’t then he doesn’t get to say what he wants to say. </span><br />
<br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">I’ve recently completed the first stage of speech therapy, which is parent-only group sessions aimed at giving caregivers the techniques necessary to assist the stutterer in talking. The key points are to limit questions and only ask necessary ones (which seems counterintuitive when your child is still learning to talk!); make fewer demands on their speech (no more “tell daddy what you did at nursery today!”); slow your own speech down to model a better speech pattern; remove environmental distractions so speech can be concentrated on; remove any competition in speech so they’re not fighting to be heard in family life. </span><br />
<br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">Some of what we’ve been asked to do feels very much as though a step back is being taken – simplifying language seems wrong when as a parent your job is to help teach your child an expansive and diverse vocabulary. We worried that we’d never get a proper conversation out of Pixie again if we didn’t ask him questions, but surprisingly giving him space to talk (or not, as he prefers) has probably resulted in better conversation because he’s telling us what he wants us to know rather than what we’re asking him to tell us. Remembering that it’s ok for children not to want to talk all the time, and that we as adults don’t need to know the ins and outs of their day away from us. After three group sessions the feeling that we’re going backwards has started to abate and we feel as though we’re better equipped to handle Pixie's problem. Changing the way we speak is hard, and we often find ourselves stalling halfway through a sentence as we realise we’re about to end it with a question. But as Pixie is learning to get through the stutter, we’re also learning how to best assist him. </span><br />
<br style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;" /><span style="font-family: Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px;">The next stage in his therapy is an assessment through play, which is scheduled for a couple of weeks’ time. From there we’ll know exactly what problems we’re dealing with and the speech therapist will be able to review his progress over time. With any luck Pixie will be one of the children who outgrow their stutter – only 1% of children carry it through into adulthood. If he’s not then I’m hopeful that an early intervention will give him and us the tools to adapt in the wider world.</span>Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357567182836060298.post-86075733609066058112012-07-12T20:05:00.000+01:002012-07-12T20:05:06.536+01:00Can't Do CarrotsI'm working on the next speech post (I am, I am, honest! <strike>Definitely not watching repeats of The Bill</strike>) but there's been an interesting development on the salicylate front.<br />
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Yesterday Pix had one and a half carrot batons. I mentioned in my last post that he's not a fan of low salicylate vegetables (although I've had some good ideas to try out for that, which is awesome, thanks to folks for that. Apart from Katherine who suggested he try kale, MY MOST HATED VEGETABLE EVER) so we figured just to get <i>some </i>nutrients in him we'd let him have a little bit of carrot, which has medium levels of salicylic acid in which we thought would be ok in moderation. Well. Today his eyes have become more and more red underneath and itchy; his face and arm skin has been itching him all day; his cough has got more and more frequent during the course of the day and his stutter has been <i>awful</i>.<br />
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The fact that they've all got worse together confirms (in my opinion) that they're all related. It would be far too much of a coincidence for them to completely autonomously of each other get bad over the course of the same day. <i>Surely</i>? But, it <i>has </i>been a better weathered day today so it's possible it may be a pollen allergy, I suppose. Do pollen allergies cause stutters? Or maybe something else. But possibly for the first time on this venture I feel slightly confident that I'm not displaying vast Münchhausen by proxy symptoms and I am barking up the right tree.Aleteahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945402800050679405noreply@blogger.com0